….and here’s why
I was walking my dogs tonight while looking at the stars and thinking to myself how much I love the movie Pretty Woman with Richard Gere and Julia Roberts.
Yeah, call it sappy, or maybe I’m living in a fantasy world, but it’s my world and in my world I love the movie Pretty Woman. Why? Because It’s funny, witty, and full of great content that pertains to every day life.
- Stop and smell the roses, take your shoes off and feel the grass in between your toes, challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone and live a bit more, laugh a lot more, and know what you’re really capable of creating in the universe.
These were some of the things I thought of while looking at the brightly lit sky, seeing Mars, Jupiter, Saturn, and the multitude of stars and planets that make up all of the cool pictures in the astronomy books sitting on a multitude of coffee tables never having been opened.
The best part of that movie was Julia Roberts shopping with Richard Gere’s credit card and his blessings to purchase anything and everything she needs to look the part for being his girlfriend for a week.
You could see she felt so great going to the stores only to purchase the best for herself knowing that someone cared enough of her and about her to give her carte blanche to feel great for that moment in time to purchase everything and anything she wanted to wear.
Maybe you see it differently, but remember, you’re in my world and that’s how I SEE IT.
Granted all the hookers I saw clunking around in Vegas would have taken that card and never come back, but in this particular instance it was great to see Julia Roberts’ character loving the freedom to do what she’d never been able to do for herself and feel good about going back to the hotel without being flagrantly beaten and demoralized by her pimp.
What struck me as I watched this movie ~ over the Thanksgiving holiday with the dogs ~ was she felt she looked beautiful and sexy, like a woman should always look and feel as she walked down the street smiling knowing her poise and delicate stance in high heels caught eyes and glances from afar that were glances of respect and admiration; instead of what she was most commonly used to which were looks of disdain and condemnation because of who she had become in order to keep herself alive. A person of circumstance, not a victim.
There’s more to this though, because hers is an endearing story. Why? Because she has nothing (no money, no clothes, no fancy fake boobs or nails) coming into this exchange and expects only to be paid for services rendered. She has decidedly taken the best possible route she knows to enable herself to live and she’s not waiting for a ‘savior’ she’s just doing her job ~ the oldest profession known to mankind.
I don’t know if you’ve done that; I know I have. I’ve taken the best route I know of at the time, the desperate route that demeans and demoralizes, but it’s the only route I have at the time based on my current circumstance. A person of circumstance, not a victim.
A Journey Worthy of a Shopping Spree a Little Love and a Hot Guy!
It was April of 2009 when I started learning about what it takes to become a professional network marketer. It’s a journey I’ve been on for almost 3 years and it’s definitely worth the suffering for the potential shopping spree, a little love, and a hot guy! And possibly so much more.
Although, unlike Pretty Woman, I’m not Julia Roberts and unfortunately, I spend too much time behind my computer to ever meet Richard Gere.
I knew there was a better way to make a life for myself and to accomplish my goal of becoming financially independent on my own. I became very interested in what was going on with marketing, direct sales, mlm, network marketing and the like and found myself captivated by the flashy kids and their flashy stuff.
I was taken with what they had accomplished on the web and how they were able to make hundreds of thousands of dollars by really doing nothing. Or at least that’s what I thought and that’s what they made it look like.
Enter the 17-20 hour days of learning and failing forward flat on my face.
Yeah, it looks easy, but it’s not and baby if you think anyone is going to take their time to teach you for F.R.E.E. you’re absolutely wrong.
Celebrities and their Groupies
I can understand why alot of the celebrities of network marketing have the attitude of ‘do it on your own’ because 90% are groupies who have the attitude that they are owed something by that celebrity network marketer because they are a part of the celebrity’s team.
Mark Hoverson says it best when he tells you to leave your team in the dust and let them figure it out for themselves. He’s great at this. He doesn’t hold their hands and never gives more than 3-5 minutes with each person.
Fernando Ceballos said from stage at the No Excuses II Event, [sic] “…if you want to get close to the people you want to emulate, ask them what you can do for them instead of asking them to do for you.”
In the movie, Julia Roberts doesn’t expect the game to go on for longer than the week. She played the game perfectly and came out with her cash and her awesome clothing and decided to make a change and believe in herself. She was willing to take a chance to make her dreams come true.
She didn’t expect that Richard Gere was going to save her, but it never fails how many times I hear,
“I joined this MLM and didn’t make any money
because my upline wasn’t willing to take the time with me.”
I wish those types of people never even got involved in this business because they’re the one’s who give network marketing a really crappy name.
Here’s a good analogy: When you buy a franchise, as a business owner you are responsible for your business succeeding or failing. You’re responsible for your advertising, you’re responsible for keeping the doors of your business open on your own.
The same applies in your network marketing business.
Just because you have a bright idea, doesn’t make it sale-able.
That’s all it is. A bright idea.
Until you actually create something with that bright idea or you’re willing to pay someone to do it for you your idea will never come to fruition and you will never make money.
Chicken Soup for the Soul the making of a Celebrity after being rejected over 100 times
Mark Victor Hansen was rejected something like 126 times when he went out to sell his book Chicken Soup for the Soul. Over 126 publishers told him he had a ‘flop’ of a book that wouldn’t appeal to the mass market.
He didn’t give up. During this time I don’t think he was receiving a paycheck for writing Chicken Soup for the Soul.
The money came after he put his heart and chicken soup soul into the making of a best-seller.
I’ve donated over five thousand hours on my knowledge and I haven’t been paid like a rock-star, a superstar, or a celebrity. In fact, I haven’t had much ‘luck’ in this industry as I haven’t been paid nearly what would qualify as even close to minimum wage for my over 5,000 hours of learning and accumulation of knowledge that I’ve been tirelessly curating.
I have joined multiple MLM’s and haven’t blamed my upline because I didn’t make it; do you think Susan Sly blames her upline for her foibles or her f-ups? Hardly. She’s a multi-millionaire and she’s overcome some incredible obstacles to get there.
Just as Pretty Woman had to overcome the obstacle of being a hooker, a slut, a whore, a prostitute, she rose to the challenge and accepted the position for which she was hired with graciousness knowing full well her week would be over and she would have to go back to working on herself and her life and creating the person she wanted to be, the woman she saw herself as, not as she was seen by others.
You’re not going to make a million overnight. You’re not even going to make 6 figures in 18 months. It’s rare and it’s hard work. And if you’re not willing to put in the time, you’re not going to reap the rewards. Celebrity status doesn’t happen overnight and if it does, you’re definitely not remembered for longer than a couple weeks. Just look at Jimmy Davis.
If you’re looking for free you need to drive to Costco and walk the isles ~ they give out free tastes of food all day long. If you’re looking to build a business then you may or may not be in the right forum.
The free-minators are too much work and they don’t pay off to be on your team. Let them go and get the people who really want to learn, work and create their business instead of those who blame, whine and expect you to do it for them.
Like the lawyer in Pretty Woman; the free-minators are everywhere, though sometimes they’re dressed better.
A Journey Worthy of the Lifestyle of a Pretty Woman
After almost 3 years and over 5,000 hours of learning I often get the question, “Why do you keep going? Why don’t you just chalk it up to a loss and give up”.
I can’t physically do it. I can’t give up. I know I’m close to that shopping spree day when I too can walk down the street, packages in hand, feeling like a Pretty Woman using my cash I’ve accumulated to purchase what I want to make me feel good and pretty just like Julia Roberts did in Pretty Woman ~ a lifestyle I so desperately want to achieve for my sanity and my closet.
Here’s the deal, when you know you will succeed you’ll do whatever it takes. You’ll sacrifice everything, become homeless (if that’s what it takes) and get so far out of your comfort zone that you wonder if you’re seriously not a candidate for a straight jacket and 500mg of valium on a daily basis.
This isn’t the kind of business where you invest $50.00 a month and all of a sudden you become a millionaire and just like the MTV Videos of yesteryear you’re walking through a wonderland of falling dollars and everything’s coming up hip-hop and sick phat juicy couture.
When you decide you really want to make this your business you’re definitely not going to be calling up people and asking them to do your work for you. You’ll be sitting down at the computer pen and pad in hand and seriously listening and taking some copious kick ass notes.
I know what I’m talking about when I say to you CAVEAT EMPTOR. If you can’t deal with giving up, sacrificing and making this your ‘daily bread’ as it were, you’re not going to have the successes of a celebrity network marketing professional.
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