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How To Build an Online Business

How To Build an Online Business Successfully

How To Build an Online BusinessI interviewed Aron Parker today on how to build an online business successfully. The top takeaways from this conversation are listed below, yet, I’d like to relay that this conversation is more than just about how to build an online business successfully, it’s about building your mindset and having a WHY that’s bigger than YOU.  As Aron said, “having a why that makes you cry.”

When I first met Aron Parker, at NESIII in Vegas last month, my first thought was that he was in his element. He was happy, funny, interesting, and INTERESTED. He was building his online business successfully.  He wasn’t pushy, in fact, he was unassuming and he had a genuine interest in me and was just happy to be around everyone.  He obviously knew how to build an online business; he just had that je ne sais quoi about him and he was very secure in who he is and what he believed.  A true trait of an entrepreneur who is building a successful online business.

Aron and I spoke in this interview as to how to build an online business and how to build it successfully.  Aron says once he stopped jumping around from company to company he made it happen and his income soared from less than $1,000 per month to over $25,000 in a little over 2 months.

How to Build and Online Business

overnight…?  Well, almost

Aron’s success didn’t come overnight.  In this interview about how to build an online business, he tells of the endless nights with lack of sleep and less than perfect family time.  He’s been working in the mlm industry for 15 years part time.  15 years of very little success according to what success is measured by:  money.  Yet, Aron moved forward and created something he truly believed in, despite what others said about him and to him.  He made it through the chastising of his friends and family and he made it through the snide remarks, “yeah, you and that internet marketing thing you’re doing that’s a waste of your time, it’s a scam, it’s not worth it…blah blah bah”How to Build an Online Business

We’ve all been through it.  Despite the fact that we are learning how to build an online business or create a successful online business, 97% give up in the first 90 days because they don’t see a paycheck and their mindset is stuck in the employee mindset.  They think that it will happen overnight.  It’s one hell of a long night, I can tell you that from my own experience.  I don’t want to be a bearer of bad news, but the overnight successes you see have been at it for quite a while; you just don’t see the story behind the glory.  What you don’t see are the long hours, the endless learning curve, the lack of time, money, and frustrations that follow.  You don’t see how to build an online business; because most don’t want to see that.

Usually the first question out of anyone’s mouth is “how long will this take?”  As long as you have to give it.  That’s how long.

How to Build an Online Business

…what will you do to be successful?

Aron Parker tells us how he created a lot of success in a little time.  You want to know the secret?  FOCUS!  It’s focusing on how to build an online business successfully and with integrity.  You know why there are scams out there?  Because most people want to believe that they can make money overnight and then when it doesn’t happen, they get upset.  They feel as if they’ve been scammed.  They scam themselves into believing that because they invest $98.00 they’ll make $98,000….seriously!

If you’re serious about learning how to build an online business you’ll listen to this call and you’ll take action and implement.

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A Lesson In Positive Mindset

Network Marketing:  Creating A Positive Mindset

Here’s a lesson I learned in positive mindset and
critical thinking.  It’s also a lesson I learned,
just now as I am editing this post, about The Law
of Attraction.

Why is it you think that some people are drawn
to you and some aren’t?

Why is it you think that you are drawn to some
people and others, not so much?

After your having purchased and bought into
every product and opportunity you still
have ABSOLUTELY NO success
in selling, distributing, or promoting these
products…and you’re wondering to yourself
How the heck do these people do this?

How are they attracting the people to them to
not only buy their stuff, but follow them, listen
to them and become their loyal fan base?

Even after everyone is creating massive amounts of
dollars every month, showing paycheck after
paycheck and winning all kinds of accolades
YOU’RE STILL sitting at your computer wondering to
yourself, is this really for real?

Moreover, your question keeps coming back to
is this really real for ME?

All the while, you’re dreams and your desires
and your goals are begging you to take the leap of
faith because seriously it’s all you’ve got right now as
you stare up from the abyss of debt that’s amassed all
around you!

Yet, how do I ‘attract’ this abundance into my life?

All you want is to feel that sense of freedom and
take a big deep sigh of personal peace knowing that
you too have money in the bank, have paid your bills,
have enough to put your kids through college, give
money to your causes, and love life the way YOU
DESIRE.

That’s all we want (well, basically).
And that’s what this business,
this industry of network marketing offers.
That dream.
The dream of living the life of YOUR DREAMS.

In your continued sense of optimism, you take to
your computer and you find an opportunity you
resonate with and you ‘go for it’.

Only to find that you’ve
busted another gut trying like heck to tell people about
this amazing opportunity you’re using.

We’ve all heard it before, “It’s Not The Product” People
don’t buy a product, they buy YOU!

You’re at a loss.  How am I to get them to like me
if they won’t even listen to me in the first place?

You shrink back into your computer chair.
Listless, lifeless and full of doubt.
Sometimes you cry.

I’ve felt it.  I know. I can feel your pain.

To coin the phrase,
“I’ve walked in the shoes”… of debt,
homelessness, fear, loneliness,
pain, hunger, sleepless nights in my car with my two
dogs having the police bang on my window yelling at me to
get out of the parking lot and “…find a home.”

“I don’t have a home…”

I would say in a whisper as
tears would well
up in my eyes and I would turn on the
car to drive and find another place
I could put my head down,
if only for a few moments
before the next interruption.

I’ve worked this business for over 3+ years

It’s been a struggle and a curse and a blessing all at once.

I’m going to share a story with you from the heart, for
real and you can call me out on it anytime you see me,
or anytime you just want to talk to me over the phone…
by the way, my phone number is below.

It was not too long ago that
I was told by someone whom I really respected and
admired that I was a pathetic piece of shit.

No, I kid you not.

In fact, this ‘coach’ as they referred to themselves as,
was preaching to many people during their
powerful calls that the DREAM is ours
to be lived and attained.

After reading my personal statements of desire and lifelong
goals,  they told me straight out that not only was I pathetic,
but that MY DREAMS were pathetic and so was my entire life.

In fact, according to them,
I was a meaningless piece of crap.

How could I be hearing this?

I was hearing such positivity and like-minded
thoughts from this person.

I had heard these powerful messages that
resonated with me and truly was
in awe of their amazing ability to speak eloquently
and with such succinct discipline.

Yet, when it came to me personally,
according to them
I was not worthy of the time
of day from anyone in this industry.
Especially them.

And, in this private conversation
an even harder blow to my psyche
and my vulnerability this
person referred to my age saying,
 ”…and you have a few years on all of
us so why don’t you just don’t go
get a j.o.b….”

WOA!!

Yep, that is the God’s Honest Truth my friend.

I was told I didn’t “get it” and that
I “stood for nothing”.  I was nothing.
In fact, I wasn’t even
worthy of them speaking to me
anymore and was abruptly hung up on
and forever banished from their life.

Wow!  That was a slap in the face and
a punch in the stomach.  I gasped for a breath
and worked to gain my composure as I struggled
with my insecurities.

And then….a moment of clarity.

I’ve been in this business for over 3+
years and have had my share of
struggles, trials and tribulations.

I’ve met others who’ve struggled too.

I’ve yet met others who are inspirations
to me and whom I have forged great
friendships and relationships with as
I’ve traversed into the network marketing
community as a Leader becoming well
known in the circles of the 7 and 8
figure earners.

Who was this person to invalidate me
with their speach?

Who were they to judge ME?

And to be so exceedingly cruel to negatively
demean and humiliate my dreams,
my life and my love for who I
have become and who I am as a person?

I don’t think I need to answer that question.

Here’s the reason I’m sharing this story with you today.

I want you
to know your continued faith
in this industry
is your continued faith in YOU.

I believe wholeheartedly we both are
capable of creating the life of our
dreams in this business if we sincerely believe in
ourselves.

I could have taken this terribly and could have really
worked myself into a place of demise, demoralization,
deception, and massive depression.  Especially
since the trust factor was involved.

I could have let this person’s words to
me resonate with the most
insecure and vulnerable side of me.

Instead, I chose not to listen.

Have you had a similar situation happen to you?

Have you had people make fun of your dreams?

Have you had people debase, disparage and demean
you and your dreams?

LISTEN TO YOUR INNER SELF.

Listen to YOU.
The beautiful person inside of YOU.
This person inside of you is telling you
to STOP and listen to yourself and
find your true love, your true passion,
your true life by design.  Whatever that
may be.

Yes, you can make money online.
Yes, you can make money selling other
people’s products.
Yes, you can achieve a significant income
doing so.

YES, you are capable, beautiful, amazing,
all powerful and an incredibly talented
individual on this planet.

So, I wanted to share this story with you because
it rings true for many of us.

Many of us are humiliated by our friends,
family and sometimes
(albeit, this is the first time it’s ever happened to me)
by our mentors whom we have put our trust in
explicitly.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel my friend
and you are that light.  YOU have everything
inside you that you need to succeed and success
is already IN YOU.

Believe in yourself, believe in what you’re doing,
believe in creating a life by design and for God’s Sake

Do Not Ever Listen to Anyone Ever Tell You Otherwise.

Peace, love and light from the heart,

Nicole Jolie

408 647 4406

Or Skype me at:  CoachNic

Also, email me at Nicole@HowToNetworkNow.com

 

Put On Your Big Girl Panties and Deal With It!

Put On Your Big Girl Panties and Deal With It!I Tripped when I put on my

panties today….

Yep, and not only did I trip, I fell on my buttox and bruised my cheeks and you wonder why women don’t want to wear high heels?  We can’t even put our panties on without falling down!

My partner called me this morning and had this tone in her voice … you know that tone when you’re in trouble but you don’t know what you did…but you know you did something and you know that something wasn’t good.  Yeah, that one.

It’s the tone of disappointment and frustration right before that special someone in your life who you really admire says, “Put your big girl panties on and deal with it Nic!”

I Need Some Perspective Here SisterPut On Your Big Girl Panties

I had made a big deal out of something that really wasn’t and was easily solved, but sincerely bothering me to the extent that I just freaked out because I couldn’t figure it out.  Sound familiar?  Oh No! Not you too?!!

Stop!  Breathe! Inhale! Exhale! Inhale! Exhale! Ok, now put one foot in the hole and step through the big girl panties.  Easy now, don’t trip.

Mmmmmmm….is this the m.o.? Making a big deal out of a banner?  Seriously?  Get a grip Nic!  Was it because of my problems I was experiencing the past two days, two weeks, three years, 5 years, or maybe that I felt like the whole world was crashing down on me?  Maybe it was because I hadn’t taken a deep breath  before I sent another email?  All of the above and every other check box on the quiz.

My big girl panties had shrunk along with the size of my brain capacity at the time of writing that email.  It happens.

Put on Your Big Girl Panties and Deal with It!Insert foot into mouth here

My partner told me a story about her j.o.b. which she’s really good at and just worked on a project for over 4 months and was told this by her team members,

“hey, ummm….that project you’ve been working on? you know the one you’ve been toiling over for months and months, hours and hours? yeah, that one. well, we’re gonna scratch it and go to something else and can you do this bigger and more hairy eye balled project for us instead?  And, can you have it done by…well, really really soon?”

All of  a sudden, my little banner fiasco that really isn’t such a big deal anyway because there’s another redirect I can use evidently, well, it became an embarrassment.  Oh good grief, Nic, did you even think that there are other people out there who have had just as many trials and tribulations as you?  Well, goodness NO! God Bless their little hearts.

Why Do I Feel The Urge To Embarrass Myself by Telling You This Story?Put On Your Big Girl panties and Deal with it!

Because, it’s  the simple-dumb of how out of kilter things may seem in our lives and how into our own little worlds we continue to fester more often than we care to admit.

When we can’t find the solution we tend to blame or become frustrated in our attempts to keep our thinking along the same lines as the problem instead of working it out where we find a solution.  Perspective is illusory in this state of mind.

I’m not the only one that’s culpable of this thought process.  You are too, and if you think you’re not, then you seriously need to check yourself.  No, I’m not kidding.  Yes, that’s a call out on your b.s. that you’re telling yourself.  We have all done this and we continue to do this to inhibit ourselves from succeeding.

 

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And for You Know Who’s Sake Pull up Your Trousers and Get to NESIII!!

 

 

 

 

You can succeed if you seriously want to make a change.

Get to the NESIII event and make the change to succeed.  Not everyone is a millionaire in this business, but there are some who are making quite a decent living and creating quite a decent lifestyle with what they do in this business.  Some of them started where you are, some started further along.  It doesn’t really matter all that much.  What does matter is that you pull up your trousers and you give yourself an opportunity to create a better life for yourself; the life you’re dreaming of right now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How to Put Out a Fire That’s Almost Out Of Control and Keep Your Head on Too

How to Put Out A Fire

The Kitchen Fire

Things in life just ‘happen to me’

I’m convinced

This is definitely one of those times and in this post I’m going to share the reasoning behind this though of mine.

This past weekend I put out my first fire that almost burnt down a house that’s not mine.  Now, just the sheer thought of burning down someone’s house is enough to make you sick to your stomach and get chills, but, when it really happens and you see the 3 foot flames rising up from the stove ready to take everything with them you realize how REAL fire is and how much you DON’T KNOW about what you DON’T KNOW.

I’ve watched the television shows, seen the movie BackDraft and have burned myself a couple of times on candles and the like, but I’ve never had to fight a fire and feel the blazing heat come at you full bore without anything to shield you from being burned from head to toe.   The feeling of helplessness is overbearing.

You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know

As I moved into panic mode in a matter of seconds, I kept screaming to my friend Benjamin, “How did this happen?” and repeating, “oh God, oh GOD, OH GOD!!”  Benjamin had his head on the entire time.  I left mine on the couch where my a** was sitting.  The best thing I did was get blankets and call 9-1-1.  Benjamin orchestrated me to calm down and get my head on straight as I ran through the house looking for anything we could use to smother the fire because water wasn’t going to work.  Here’s a caveat: don’t use water on a plastic fire, evidently it makes it worse.  Note to self.  Benjamin a pilot, accomplished astronomer and excellent chef knows a lot more than I knew.  You just don’t know what you don’t know.

Real FireWe managed to get the fire out before the fire department came to the rescue, but not before the fire almost took the entire kitchen and the rest of the house with it.  I thank Benjamin for his calm resolve and ability to put out a fire with his bare hands and a lot of towels!  I honestly wouldn’t know what I’d have done without him at my side.  Teamwork is all I can say to you.  Friends are the crux of my existence and I’m grateful to have some really freakin’ good one’s at my side.

What I learned about what I don’t know about what I don’t know

This fire brought out the most panic I’ve ever felt and the sickness I felt after having to tell the owners of the house, who were out of town, that their house almost burned down by a fire that was caused while I was there, was enough to make me want to vomit uncontrollably in the driveway.  Knowing full well this was a really freak accident that no one has yet to figure out how it happened, I feel like the black cloud is over my head 100% of the time right now.  But, I know that’s not true, because

Everything is in divine orderEverything is in Divine Order

My friend Benjamin said to me that we were the one’s who were there because we saved the house from being burned down to the ground.  He’s right.  This was a freak accident.  Really freaky.

So, as I lay myself down to sleep on Saturday night after being up almost 24 hours straight cleaning up, taking garbage and charred remains out of the house and into the garbage bags that numbered quite a few, I became very grateful I have the friends I do and they help me keep my head on straight because without them I would be lost in the fires of life that seem to protrude from odd places like rogue waves in the middle of the sea.

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Big 12 Checklist for Network Marketers

12 Checklist ItemsWhat You Do Daily

Translates into How Successful Your Business Will Be

It’s not one thing that creates your millionaire status in this business.  It’s a bunch of things compiled and completed every single day that translate and affect everything we do for our business, making us more successful each step of the way.

Each day there are certain things I do in my business to create lead generation.  None is more important than the other because every task fits somewhere and does something especially important in order to make sense of all of the other tasks I perform.  Some days I get mixed up and frustrated and overwhelmed.  Some days I’m spot on and I am a machine making use of my time like a Ninja Turtle.  Ha!

Daily MMA (Money Making Activities)

If you haven’t heard about daily MMA, you will when you get to No Excuses in Vegas.  Register HERE for this because it’s something you CANNOT MISS as a new network marketing professional.

MMA is what creates our dreams, it’s what solidifies our success, it’s what makes us believe in ourselves and our business.  When we see the leads come in, when we watch the commissions in our back office, when we see the referrals from others and then when we see what someone has to say about our concerted efforts because the effort we put forth has affected them; well, it’s all worth our time.

Daily MMA is building up lead generation, getting people to follow you; to know you, like you and trust you, that’s your #1 priority in your business.   Lead generation, as you well know, isn’t all that easy.  There are many ways to complete this task of generation and each way poses a lengthy process to get that lead to follow you, know you, like you and trust you.12 daily methods of operation

Think of it this way.  You can’t walk up to someone you don’t know and say, “hey, buy my stuff man.  it’s good stuff.  it’s stuff you want.  it’ll make me rich because you buy my stuff…so buy my stuff.  Now!”

They’re going to look at you, and probably walk away. In fact, if they don’t walk, they’ll run.  It’s the same thing on line, but you’ll see it all the time.  You’ll see people throw up their affiliate links everywhere and all the time it’s what’s getting people banned from groups, ousted from lists and expelled from the school of network marketing.  It is also what’s garnering the attention of Facebook Advertising, Google Advertising and the like and not in a good way either.

12 daily methods of operationNicole’s 12 Daily Methods of Operation

1. Write down 10 things, people, places, items, animals, anything I’m grateful for right now at this moment.  I start my day with gratitude because it’s the only way I will remember how successful I am right at this moment in time.

2. Write down what I will feel like when I’m a millionaire.  Seriously.  I do this every single day.

3. Ask myself, what is the most important thing I can do today that will make a difference in my business.  What is the task that will make a difference today.  Just one task.

4. Ask myself what I’ve accomplished that has made a difference and repeat that process.  I reflect on what I did that made a difference and I act upon it.  The adage, rinse and repeat is definitely a part of the process.

5. Work on one project and get it completed – no ifs ands or butts, just completed.  Whatever that project is, it must be finished by the end of my work day.

6. Check email once per day – SERIOUSLY.  I open it.  Answer it.  Close it.

7. Turn off my texting capabilities on my phone.  No texts.  No interruptions.  No phone calls.  Just working on my business to create success.

7.  Create Value – learn from the BEST.  Implement.  Find out what works for me and I write about it.  Right now, my goal is 30 blog posts in 30 days with valuable content.  What’s your valuable contribution?

8. Product Creation.  I spend at least an hour a day working on my product.  Don’t have a product?  What are you good at?  What can you do that will help others?  What have you learned that you have implemented and that has worked for you?   Here’s something you may want to consider about what you’re learning….***If you have signed a NON-DISCLOSURE agreement I would highly recommend you not disseminating any information you are not allowed to…just a thought.

9. Create one ad.  Place one ad.

10. Tune into my primary company and learn something I didn’t know.  At least an hour a day is spent learning a new or ongoing topic/subject that will help me to understand this business of network marketing so that when I implement I do so with knowledge and foresight.

11. Write down all of my accomplishments daily.  Even my food.  What I eat, where I go, what I do.  Journaling helps me to create a better daily method of operation by reflecting on what I did and how long it took, what it did to make me money in my business and what was a drain on my time.

12. Visualize my success.  Visualize speaking on stage to a very large audience.  Visualize what I will be wearing, what I will be saying, how I will be conveying the information I have inside of me to those who are seriously interested in taking their business to that next level.  Yes, you will be seeing me on stage.

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How to Attract a Power Partner: The Making of an Entrepreneur

Are You Ready to Meet Your Mentor?Are you Ready to Meet Your Mentor?

I never had a mentor, but was seriously in need of meeting one.  I’ve had a lot of people tell me I ‘should’ do this and ‘should’ do that and wasn’t good enough to do this and not smart enough to do that.  But, I’d never had a mentor.

I learned by trial and error throughout my life.  Having quit school at the age of 13 and becoming legally emancipated from my mom I decided to move out and go to work full-time so I could make my own money and live on my own.  The principal of the school said to me,

“You’ll never amount to anything.  You’ll be a bum all your life and won’t be employable.”

When I received my degree I called the school just to see if she still worked there.  She did.

At 13, I was a stock girl at Nordstroms, I lied about my age, got pulled into HR, cried because I was embarrassed, kept my job and then found another job as a hostess at a restaurant.  I worked both jobs and enrolled into a little satellite community college school to learn how to be a secretary, take Gregg steno, type, and file.  Still not knowing the ins and outs of ‘how to’ connect with people I had a huge learning curve in front of me.  I took the bus over 2 hours to each job.  I learned how to communicate more effectively every day.  Still,

Are you Ready to Meet Your Mentor?I had no mentor.

I learned from all of my failures and my really big falls.  I got into Fordham University by taking an entrance exam that I had no way to study for in order to pass.  I had to write a very long essay.  I remember.  And it had to be grammatically correct.  I passed and got in.  I took my G.E.D. so that I could enroll and there I was a Political Science major at Fordham University.  I worked full-time.  I had 12 units per semester.

I had no mentor.  Instead,

At that time I had a boyfriend who was a lawyer.   I wanted to be a lawyer too.  I got a job as a professional salesperson for the New York Law Journal.

A Mentor Through Happenstance: No Excuses

July 2010:  I wasn’t ready for what this business threw at my face and pounded into my head.  I was only trying to grow the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th MLM business I had invested into because a well-known famous triathlete had suggested it to me.  He reached out and I was happy to oblige.  Great product.  Not such a great Team.  I had no idea how to market this product and worse yet, I had no idea how to grow a Team of my own.  Same problem I’d had with the 3 previous companies I’d joined.  It wasn’t the product, it was my lack of knowledge on how to market my product.  It has nothing to do with the product and everything to do with the salesperson.

Biking to NES in Vegas 50 miles each day and night just to listen to the best in the industry was the beginning of my mentorship. My mentor happened to meet me while walking through the breakout sessions one night while I had my bicycle, my cleats, my helmet, clad in my bike clothes and about $72.00 in my bank account.  I had no money, my ticket was free because an acquaintance had an extra.  I was thrilled to be there.  I was even more thrilled to get to MEET these amazing 6 and 7 figure earners – one of whom has become my mentor.

Watching the Making of a MillionaireAre you Ready to Meet Your Mentor?

A funny thing happened at that one of the breakout sessions.  I watched the making of a now 7 figure earner rise to the occasion with his mentor: Mark Hoverson.  His name is Adam Holland.  He was just coming into his own in this business and this was his debut.  His mentor, Mark Hoverson was more than proud of Adam’s accomplishments.  A mentor is what Adam really needed to breakthrough.  He got it.  The session was held in a very small room on a floor at the Venetian.  How did I get in?  I don’t know.  I just did.

Are you ready to meet your mentor?

Attracting that power partner into your life to help you grow your business, be a sounding board, listen to you, and more aptly have you listen to the wisdom they impart upon you is a daunting task to accomplish.  The proverb

‘the teacher will arrive when the student is ready’

is surely true and has a great strength in meaning.  Until you are truly ready to learn and listen your mentor, your power partner will not show up because you’re not emitting that energy YET.

I would have never met my mentor if it weren’t for attending a live event.  I truly believe that mentors don’t just arrive via Facebook and the internet.  There is something to be said about meeting people face to face, shaking their hands, giving a pat on the back, looking them in the eyes and listening to what they have to say about this business.  Your mentor is right there in front of you, you’ve just got to open your ears, close your lips, and listen.

Meet your Mentor HERE

 

Be The Change You Want To See In Yourself

Change is ScaryChange is scary

People come to me often and point to their bodies and say, “how can I get rid of this?” as they point to a part of their body that they think isn’t a part of their body.  The change they are looking for is scary because they don’t realize how scared they are to change.

I laugh at them.  Yes, AT THEM.  Because they think that ‘that’ to which they are pointing to is some kind of alien creature that has infiltrated their body to make them look abby-normal and act the same!

That piece of fat, cellulite, protruding belly, or whatever it may be they don’t like about their body is really not a part of them.  It’s something else; It’s something that they don’t want, they don’t like, they aren’t interested in having anymore.

Surgery.  I say to them, “go get surgery” because that’s exactly what they want to hear.

YOU Really Don’t Want To ChangeYou Really Don't Want To Change

You see, they don’t want to change the way they are eating, they don’t want to change their exercise regimen to include challenging themselves or their muscles, joints, tendons, et al.  They have no interest in changing because

CHANGE IS SCARY

and scary is as scary does!

It doesn’t bode well with 99.99% of the population.   It challenges you to the core and you have to believe in something you can’t see.  You don’t want to believe because the thought process is bass-ackwards, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”  Not forward thinking like a true entrepreneur.

Here’s how an entrepreneur THINKS

“I believe I can do it, therefore I will make it happen.”

Yeah, you’re an adventurer alright…

Sure, they’ll say they love travel, they love adventure, they love to do different things.  But when I ask them, are you willing to change the way you are thinking about your lifestyle they come back to me and and say, “well, what do I have to do?  Is it going to be hard?  Can’t I just keep doing this and make that one change?”

They are so not ready for change.

Be The ChangeAre you Sick of Yourself Yet?

They really don’t want what they are asking for because they haven’t figured out they aren’t going to change their mindset and until they do, they’re not going to get the results they want.

You must change your mindset to get a different result.

Change starts at the core and usually it’s either desperation or inspiration that creates that change or that want to change attitude.  Most people get to the point where they’re so sick of it they’ll do anything, try anything and be anything just so they can stop being or doing who they are.  They’re sick of themselves.

We’ve all been there.  It’s embarrassing to admit and it’s not the easiest hurdle to get over.  Nonetheless, if you want change you have to be the change.

Herein lies my reason for writing this post and I’m going to be brutally honest.

What I did to change my way of thinking

Be the change you want to seeWhen I decided I wanted to become a network marketing professional and live the great lifestyle that I so desired from my core.  I let everything go.  I sold everything.  I became homeless for a time.  I lived out of my car.  I gave things away for F.R.E.E. because all I want is to be a leader within the industry.  I wrote blog posts, I challenged myself every day to make videos on topics that I had just learned.  I made every moment count in front of my computer by learning, doing, implementing and YES, I haven’t seen a great deal of ‘success’ like the others.

Does this mean I stop?  After almost 3 years does this mean I stop dreaming and tell myself, “it doesn’t work, it’s a scam!”   Because I’m not getting the results I want doesn’t mean it doesn’t work?

No, it means I have to change something.  I have to implement, I have to make the tweaks, I have to change the way I look at things, the way I choose to achieve my goal of financial independence.

What Will You Change About YourselfWhat do you want to change?

I have to swallow pride every day in my business of personal training.

The type of client that walks through this particular club is not only skeptical, they know it all and they have no interest in what you have to say to them.

They want me to hold their hand.

They hire me because they want a result, they’ll get it IF THEY CHOOSE TO CHANGE, but most will give some excuse and it’ll end up being MY FAULT because they can’t stick to their guns and make the change.  It’s the personal trainer’s fault because I’m sore, I’m fat, I’m ugly, I didn’t eat right, I did this….

Change = responsibility

Responsibility = having to hone up to your own misgivings.

What Will You Change About YourselfWhen do YOU want to change?

We all want to change something about us that we don’t like, don’t want, aren’t comfortable with, and on and on and on…we can stand in front of the mirror and say bad things to ourselves and put ourselves down and make ourselves feel crappy because we didn’t see the change in record breaking time.

Attrition is high in the health and fitness industry, yet it’s one of the biggest industries in the world.  Attrition is high in the network marketing industry too.  It’s one of the biggest industries in the world.

Correlation?  Yes, because people give up EASILY – they don’t want to do what it takes because it’s a daily process.  I get people coming to me and within 6 weeks want to change their bodies.  That CAN HAPPEN, it’s a matter of how hard are you willing to work to make it happen and WHAT ARE YOU WILLING TO CHANGE to see the results?

As I traverse into my day after writing a couple of posts, I find myself thinking, “today I will change, I’m not concerned with my client changing.  That’s up to them and it has nothing to do with me.  I will be the change I want to see in myself.”  That’s the best and the ONLY THING I CAN DO.

 

Make the change

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